Your daughter is getting married. Congratulations! Do you worry that you won’t be able to find a Mother Of The Bride dress to wear to her wedding that’s flattering and spectacular for her wedding day? Don’t stress as there’s a huge selection of mother of the brides dresses to choose from. Popular styles include Floor Length Dresses, Tea Length Dresses, Fitted Sleeves and A-line dresses. The mother of the bride today is a fashionable, modern woman, largely unconstrained by formality, style and colour.
Degree of Formality: Unlike the bridal party, which is customarily outfitted in similar wedding attire, the mother of the bride dress should be dressed in similar or matching wedding attire, the mother of the-bride dress generally follows the rules for any guest should dress, except that the mother of the bride should be dressed in more formal attire than other guests.
The level of formality should be dictated by the formality of the event, in particular the bride’s dress. So if your daughter is going to wear a ballroom style wedding dresses with a chapel train and gloves, you should try to match the level of formality by wearing something formal. This doesn’t mean you have to necessarily wear a dress bathed in sequins, or made out of satin, velvet embellished with rhinestones. There are many frill-free formal looks out there.
Matching: Ideally a mother of the bride should aspire to compliment or at least co-ordinate with the overall look and feel or theme of the wedding. When choosing mother of the bride dresses, season, formality and a whole host of other factors need to be taken into account. Whether or not the mother of the bride dresses matches the bridal party apparel is entirely a matter of discretion for the bride.
Whilst some brides prefer to have both the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom match the bridesmaids, modern wedding etiquette dictates that brides now allow their mothers to choose their own apparel. For something less formal you may have to choose a shorter dress. The bride may express a preference for the mother of the bride to follow the formality and style of the wedding, or to at least co-ordinate the colour of her outfit to match the rest of the wedding party.
Style: Contemporary mothers aren’t expected to wear matronly mother of the bride dresses anymore, and there is now a variety of stylish, halter and even strapless dresses available for the modern mother of the bride. When it comes to selecting a mother of the bride dress the options are infinite. Traditionally, the mother of the bride wears a floor length gown, accompanied by a formal jacket or bolero. There are hundreds of beautiful floor length mother of the bride dresses with jackets or boleros to choose from of course, but you don’t necessarily have to stick with tradition if you don’t want to.
Colour: The most frequently asked question by a Mother of the Bride is what colour should I wear? There are now many options available. The rule should be choose anything you want as long as long as it doesn’t detract from the bride or isn’t the same colour as her dress.
Traditionally speaking, it’s prudent to avoid dresses in the white ivory, and champagne colour family which may match the bride. Many argue that black should be avoided because it suggests mourning and therefore disapproval of the pending nuptials by the mother of the bride in black.
However black is classic, chic, and formal, and now even reds are popularly regarded as being able to be worn by mothers of the bride if done tastefully. The only hard and fast rule is to discuss colour options with the bride and try to oblige in respecting her wishes. She may have no reservations about you wearing bold colours, or alternately may prefer you to wear subdued yet stately colours in the lavender, silver, burgundy and blue families.
Most mothers of the bride opt for a colour which is personally flattering, matching their skin tone, is age appropriate, and harmoniously matches other dresses in the bridal party.
There is no reason why you have to wear plain beige. Some people believe it’s best to stick to pastels in warmer climate and choose deeper shades in the fall and winter. Choosing a colour that looks great for the mother of the bride should be the first priority.
Whilst some daughters may express a preference for their mothers to wear a mother of the brides dress in the same general colour family as the bridal party, other daughters are happy to allow their mothers to choose a colour that completely contrasts with the bridesmaids dresses on the colour wheel.
Some women don’t even pick a single colour block and wear either patterns or multiple colours. If in any doubt you can’t go wrong in wearing neutral colours as they go with anything, however if you pick a neutral coloured mother of the brides dress, ensure that it is a saturated colour so you don’t look washed out.
Suit or dress: Even though mother’s dresses are referred to as mother of the brides’ dresses, it doesn’t mean that you have to wear a dress, and there are several suits which have been designed for the mother of the bride.
Fabric: The bride isn’t the only one who can wear lace at a wedding. Lace is a gorgeous fabric that is suitable for any member of the wedding party, but will probably look best on the mother and the bride, being elegant and having a distinctly romantic air.
Size: Those of us with generous curves needn’t worry anymore about finding attractive Mother Of The Bride dresses. You don’t have to wear over-sized dresses with no shape to them. Look for dresses that compliment your full-figured curves and de-emphasize your least favorite features.
Ordering: Shopping, ordering and fitting your mother of the brides dress can take just as long to order and fit as the bride’s dress, if not even longer! There is also a tradition that you must choose your dress prior to the mother of the groom choosing hers out of courtesy so make sure you order you mother of the brides dress early. However, having said this, this approach is now considered old-fashioned and somewhat unrealistic.
There is always a case to be made that adhering to tradition for the sake of it is a lost cause. So abandon all of your preconceptions and have fun shopping for your mother of the bride dress, enjoying all of the variety out there.
When shopping for a mother of the brides dress it’s a great idea to bring a photo of the bridal and bridesmaid dresses as a guide when you are shopping and deciding what to choose as a mother of the brides dress.