Are you having dating problems? Now I don't mean you are having problems in a current relationship. I will deal with that in another article. What I mean is are you having problems getting dates or making them great? There are a lot of people on the internet who will give you lots of advice about dating, but I am here to put it to you straight. Dating is a numbers game. Confidence is built through failures. If you want to date hotties, become one.
I once knew a guy who would walk into a bar and walk up to random women. He had one pick up line and it was terrible. He would just walk up and say "Would you like to have sex with me?" Ninety nine times out of a hundred the woman said no, but he didn't care. All he cared about was the one who said yes. Now I am not suggesting you do that. That is a terrible way to be. My point is that even with no skill at all this man got what he wanted through numbers. Stop caring about the ones who got away, get a bigger net and keep on fishing.
Confidence is built through our failures. Well this is true only if you look at its opposite. You see when we try and fail and try and fail we don't feel very confident. Yet, what happens when we get just one success? Our confidence goes way up. No matter what the subject, all it takes is a few good successes and we can become confident in it. Think of the failures as steps towards the successes. They are training. So in effect we train and build our confidence in our failures.
There is no doubt that men and women are visual creatures. So if you want to date a hottie, become one. Now I understand that some of us will never be like Brad Pitt. That isn't what I am saying. What I am saying is make an effort to improve yourself. Get a haircut, have a female friend go shopping with you for some new clothes, if you are overweight join a gym. You would be surprised how far a little effort goes towards making you much more appealing to the opposite sex.
There is no doubt we could all use some lessons in dating. Think of dating as a hobby. Work to improve on it just as you would any other hobby. Remember it is a numbers game. Keep in mind that you will build up confidence as you play the game. Most importantly never be satisfied with yourself. Always seek to improve on yourself.