On the subject of romantic relationships—whether or not they’re firmly established, or nonetheless of their early levels—we’re (rightfully) conditioned to concentrate to and make observe of any warning indicators about an individual, generally known as “crimson flags.”
We gained’t go into why that’s essential, and what can occur should you ignore crimson flags, however there are the reason why the subject comes up so typically within the context of romantic relationships. And whilst you completely ought to proceed to be aware of crimson flags, it’s additionally essential to concentrate to a present or potential companion’s optimistic traits, too.
This doesn’t imply ignoring or justifying unhealthy habits due to a couple of seemingly good qualities, but it surely does imply appreciating the perfect of what they carry to the desk, and figuring out whether or not they meet your fundamental relationship wants (i.e. issues like feeling seen, engaging, and protected).
In an article for Well+Good, Natalie Arroyo Camacho spoke with a relationship professional and therapist to search out out extra about relationship inexperienced flags—together with a couple of examples. Listed below are some to bear in mind.
They’re acquainted—and cozy—with themselves
This often signifies that an individual is aware of what they want in a romantic relationship, and are extra prepared to be open and trustworthy in conversations with you and different individuals as effectively.
In accordance with relationship expert Laurel House, one indicator of that is whether or not somebody is able to taking good care of themselves, like understanding or consuming healthily—behaviors says present that the individual is ready to be current.
Whenever you say ‘no,’ they respect and honor it
“That’s an enormous one,” licensed marriage and household therapist Jacqueline Mendez, told Well+Good. “Your ‘no’ is not any—no clarification wanted, no additional negotiation.”
The main focus isn’t in your bodily relationship
After all, the bodily aspect of a romantic relationship is essential, but when it’s somebody’s principal (or solely) concern and focus, that may fall into red-flag territory. Nevertheless, Mendez says that in the event that they exhibit that they’re authentically “interested in you, not simply what they’ll get out of it,” that’s undoubtedly a inexperienced flag.