We shed a part of ourselves when something tragic happens. This could be losing a loved one, an unpleasant divorce or losing a job. If you are able to rebuild your self-esteem, you can continue living your life.
You may initially feel that there is no point in living but after a period of time, you can start rebuilding your self esteem by first learning to let go.
Along the way, the event which struck you down most likely will haunt you and it is okay to cry and feel angry. Once you have released this out of your system, it is time to open your eyes and accept the fact that it has happened.
Once you understand and accept your feelings
try doing things that make you feel good. Perhaps get a new haircut, go on a long vacation, take a new class or start a business.
You need a new environment so reach out to the world. By doing this on your own or with friends, you will be able to begin enjoying life again instead of imprisoning yourself in your own home.
Just think that you now have all the time in the world to do things that your spouse did not allow you to do before a messy divorce for example. In the case of the death of a loved one, remember them for who they were and cherish whoever is still living.
Should you lose your job like many are experiencing right now, look for a different kind of work or try out some classes because there are certain fields that are not affected as much by the financial crisis.
In order to achieve that, you must remember that you have something locked inside you which is very powerful and that is the belief in yourself. If you learn to forgive yourself, you will soon have a change in attitude and a different outlook in life.
yes you made some mistakes but,
Your friends will support you!
People who have known you in the past will surely take notice of it and some who were not close to you before will be more than willing to approach and want to know more about you.
But this will not work until you identify the pain and what you need to do in order to be happy again. One of the things that enrich self-esteem is by looking deep within oneself to find self-love.
This understanding will help guide you to your future goals and achievements’.
There is a saying that goes, “what hurts you will only make you stronger”.
Tragedy is just that element that makes us look deep inside one-self and reevaluate our new future. Closing one chapter in our lives opens up doors that were not there before. To fall on hard times is a tragic event and by allowing yourself to identify and understand the pain is a big step that will make you stronger.
You may be bruised or see a scar but you are still living and breathing so stop wasting your time sulking when there is so much to do in life.
What happened yesterday is over and a new day is here. This is a chance for you to live again so seize the day!
Remember, you never lost your self-esteem. It was there the whole time and you just need to stand up, dust off the dirt and find the feeling again.
This is Robin signing out!